Get Ready for Love

Spring is Almost Here – Love is in the Air

Dr. Erica at the Passion and Romance Summit

  • Are you ready for love?
  • Can you feel it?
  • Are you giving your love freely and openly?
  • Do you live in a loving world?


  • Is something in your life upsetting you?
  • Does someone else stop your love?
  • Do negative people block your love?
  • Are you feeling unlovable because you lack…?

What Is This Thing Called Love?

Men and women have pined for love, written about love, created books and movies about love, and so many of our songs are all about the ups and downs and emotional anguish of unrequited love.  “What is this Thing Called Love” was a popular song written by Cole Porter for the musical Wake Up and Dream, performed by Elsie Carlisle in March 1929, almost 90 years ago.  Men and women have been seeking love and it remains a mystery to most of us today.

As far as I am concerned, LOVE is the most important “thing” we can aspire to and attain in life.  If we create truly loving relationships with the people we know and at the same time feel love and compassion for all humanity and all living beings, what could possibly be more fulfilling than that?

Brendon Burchard, leading online teacher and marketer and New York Times bestselling author of The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger and Life’s Golden Ticket, talks about his near death experience as a teenager.  He recalls thinking about 3 things when he says:  “At the end of our lives we will ask:  Did I live?  Did I love?  Did I matter?”

but what stands out most for me is when he asked “How have I loved?”

How Have You Loved?

How would you describe yourself if someone asked you, “Are you a loving person”?  Would your immediate response be “Yes, I care about people, I treat them kindly and with Irespect, and people feel good being around me.”  If you asked 10 people in your life to describe you, would they corroborate your self-description?  Would they automatically say
“Yes, what a loving, caring, respectful and empathic person”?

Or would some friends, perhaps, say that while others would share some personal hurts and upsets resulting from your words or attitudes or behaviors?  Would your colleagues at work describe you as loving or difficult?  Would your family describe you as caring or distant?  And would your most intimate partner smile with delight at all the love you contribute to his or her life?

Get Ready for Love

What Brendon Burchard realized at that turning point in his life is that it’s not too late.  We can make a firm decision to love, right here, right now.  We do not have to wait until our final moments to say “I love you” to the one or two people who have remained in our life.  Right now, today, we can begin expressing our love.  But there is a catch.  We have to actually FEEL that love.  And many of us have been so blocked and suppressed for so many years that we cannot easily access that love.  We may feel it superficially, online with our distant friends with whom we do not have daily, moment to moment, interactions.  We may feel it toward our friends who listen to our problems when we connect on the phone or meet in person from time to time.

Love is a skill, a developed skill.  Love is a habit, an ongoing habit.  Love is a decision, a commitment, and a goal.  Love is a process, a learning and growing and expanding experience.  Love is so simple but often not easy to feel or to express.

Are YOU Ready for Love?


Starting March 16th, a group of leading love, romance and relationship experts, including myself, are being interviewed in live webcasts.  You will receive  two video interviews daily with experts who are going to be sharing with you their best strategies and tools on how to create the Love Life you want.  Each video will run 30-45 minutes and will be available to you for 48 hours.  These speakers have also creaqed a special offer at a fraction of their value especially for the participants of the live summit community.


My personal webcast interview will be live on the second day of the summit, Tuesday, March 17th. 


At that time I will introduce my special 30 Day Love Challenge, an event that will transform your love life if you are willing to participate fully in the daily Love Agenda.

Join the Summit and check your inbox for Iris Benrubi’s interview with Dr. Erica Goodstone.

Dr. Erica Interviewed at the Passion and Romance Summit



In the meantime….


Love Me Touch Me Heal Me Book











Dr. Erica

Intimacy Pact – How Have You Created Yours?

Believe it or not, we all create our own intimacy pact with our most significant partners and INTIMACY PACTwith everyone else in our life.  We allow a certain amount of closeness, a certain degree of allowing the other person to know us, depending upon the specific Intimacy Pact we have created for each relationship.

Some of us appear to be so intimate with everyone, even total strangers.  Notice the apparent amount of self-revelation on Facebook and other social media sites.  Pay attention to what you see posted on social media and what you know about that same person in their actual life.  I have seen, in many cases, an extreme discrepancy. Continue reading

Clean Loving, Clean Life


Clean Loving, Clean Life

  • Have you ever heard the words “I love you” with a questioning look in your eyes and the word “Really?” on the tip of your tongue?
  • Have you ever attended a social or business networking event where the meeting was supposed to be about connecting and sharing yet you felt someone imposing their wishes upon you, attempting to push you to do something you didn’t want?
  • Do you feel bogged down by any part of your life that seems to have happened to you without your full consent and without you having made a clear choice out of passion, interest and desire?
  • Are you living a clean life or do you feel it is polluted by your own or other people’s fears, negative thinking, self-centered actions and lack of genuine intimate connection?

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Download Love, Upload Loving Relationships

Think DigitalToday, as I recover from a failing hard drive on my computer that was just replaced and I download programs and upload files, I am thinking about lifestyle, love and relationships in computer language. I scanned my life and my thoughts to discover what programs I have downloaded, what files in my memory have been corrupted, what thoughts are fragmented and how I can protect my body, mind and spirit from malicious attacks of negativity, viruses and other malware. Continue reading