Are You A Victim or A Victor?

Imagine you are in a wheelchair at 88 pounds, with cancer, and a week-and-a-half to live.  What would you do?


Recently on my radio show I interviewed a colleague and friend, Dr. Marilyn Joyce, who I had originally connected with many years ago when we were both featured authors with chapters in the book Adventures in ManifestingAdventures in Manifesting This vibrant, full of life, caring and fun-filled woman is an inspiration to all of us.

She was in her 30’s – not her 60’s or 70’s – at the peak of her health, or so she thought.  But she noticed a change in a  mole that had always been on her face but had become darker and was getting crusty.  Expecting the dermatologist to “just remove it”, she was shocked to discover this was a sign of melanoma, a potentially deadly skin disease.

This fascinating cancer survivor searched around the world and found her answer right here at home when she spoke with Dr. Bernie Siegel, author of his first book, Love Medicine and Miracles, in 1986.  His one simple question changed her life.  Learn how she was able to turn her life around and bring her body back to a state of vibrant health.

Listen to My Radio Interview

Dr. Marilyn Joyce Radio Interview

The former Director of Nutrition for the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, Dr. Marilyn Joyce is a five-time cancer survivor – now a 27+ year surviver thriver. She speaks to such organizations as Xerox, the FBI, Girl Scouts, Boeing, UCLA, Scripps Medical Center, Sloan-Kettering, The American Cancer Society, the Wellness Community Centers and Peak Potentials (now New Peaks).  Dr. Joyce, a Registered Dietitian, with her doctorate in Psychology and Biochemistry and Human Nutrition, has been inspiring audiences around the world as a motivational and inspirational keynote speaker, seminar leader, and trainer. She has been the featured guest on Doctor to DoctorLeezaMontel Williams, Maury Povich, PBS, and Jenny Jones.  Dr. Joyce is the author of the best-selling books, 5 Minutes to HealthI Can’t Believe It’s Tofu! and her much sought-after book, INSTANT E.N.E.R.G.Y.™: The 5 Keys to Unlimited Energy & Vitality!

If you, or someone you love, has been diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness, this does not have to be a life sentence.  There ARE alternative ways to heal whatever ails you.  The healing begins in your mind, even before you start making lifestyle changes to improve your diet, exercise, rest, and work habits and routines.  Without the attitude shift, the cleanest diet in the world will not create the ultimate healing effect.

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Dr. Erica Goodstone is a Spiritual Relationship Healing Expert helping men and women heal their bodies and their relationships through love. Having presented her comprehensive relationship healing programs throughout the U.S. and Canada over several decades, she has helped literally 1000's of men and women to heal through learning how to love. Dr. Erica believes "Where There is Love There IS a Way". When you love, accept, listen and pay attention to your body, trust your own sense of what you truly desire, and strive to understand, appreciate and really know the other people in your life, anything and everything is possible.

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22 thoughts on “Are You A Victim or A Victor?

  1. An inspirational story and so lovely that the information is being shared. They say that the pharmaceutical companies know there are alternative treatments that work far better but obviously their aim is to make money so they just want to sell more of their own products that really may not be the best options for people.

    Enjoy the journey!

    • HI Mandy,

      I had attended the live event “The Truth About Cancer” and even though I had heard so much of this before, especially during their virtual summits, I was blown away by what I was hearing. We really have to be our own best doctor and seek out what is the best approach to treating any illness, even a serious one.
      If someone has a heart attack or is in an accident with broken bones, our medical system is excellent and I would trust their services. But for an illness, they do not attempt to heal the source, they often provide something that will mask the symptoms or kill the local tumor cells, but they do not not get to the source.

      Dr. Erica

    • Louis,
      It can be so easy to just give up when life hands us some difficult times. But just a little support from even one person can help us to change our perspective and re-gain the strength to do what we have to do.
      I love reading inspiring stories of people who have overcome great odds and continue to move forward.
      Dr. Erica

  2. Hi, Erica thank you and please thank Marilyn for sharing. As I read this I immediately thought about a retreat HIV/AIDS that some of our clients were being recognized for work they do in the community. In one of the groups, some of the clients shared how being diagnosed made them see how precious life was and how that were respecting each moment that they had left and were enjoying life like they never had before. However, there were also clients in the group that shared that they were living like they were going to die tomorrow. Many admitted that they were getting high again. A few years back I was misdiagnosed with a life-threatening disease and for three weeks I thought I was going to die. Recalling the strength of those clients who maintained a positive outlook held me together. I knew I wanted to be like them.

    • Lydia,

      I had my own health scare this past year and that is enough to shock you into doing what you can to make a difference in the lives of others while you are here. We don’t know how long we have, but we do know what we can do. Often our fear of failure might stop us. But when we get past focusing on our own fears, we can become amazing. And life becomes a joy, every day, even in hard times.


      Dr. Erica

  3. Wonderful story and I wholeheartedly agree with your point about the critical difference our attitude makes! One of the most beautiful women I’ve ever known was my late grandmother-in-law. At the age of 95, Alta broke her hip and the doctors told her family they might as well resign themselves to the fact that people of her age rarely recover.

    After the hospital, Alta was tucked away in a nursing home, but instead of resigning herself to the worst case scenario she got really pissed and told her family not to write her off because she intended to move home. They nodded and patted her on the head, but I knew she’d do prove them wrong, and within 6 months she was back in her own home, where she lived until she finally left us at the beautiful age of 105!

    • Wow, what a spirit your grandmother-in-law had. The problem as we age is that the people around us see our frailty as inevitable and they do not support our healing. I have an 87 year old friend who broke her hip – and she recovered within 2 weeks, without high blood pressure medication which she refused to take at the hospital.
      Several of my colleagues who spoke on my first virtual summit are in their 90’s – and one was 102.

      My Aunt Anita is now 96 and she seems to have given up on life. She does not have the fighting spirit. It is very hard to watch this progressing.

      I am inspired by all those people who live with purpose and defy the medical establishment.


      Dr. Erica

  4. I love this differentiation between VICTIM or VICTOR! What a great new perspective! It is amazing to see how many people give up – while others with even more challenges succeed to a far greater degree than some able-bodied people. Thank you for sharing!

    • Yes,
      I have been finding that so many people think it should all be easy and they look for the perfect formula before even getting started – or –
      they get started and as soon as the difficulties arise, they bail out. Success is more like a marathon than a sprint. You have to be in
      the game for the whole duration.
      Dr. Erica

    • Yes Dr. McLaughlin,

      We can all benefit from stories of people who have overcome the odds and lived to not only tell their stories but thrive in their own lives. I’m sure you deal with many women who feel like giving up when the symptoms of menopause and illnesses afflict them. But there are many ways to overcome physical and emotional imbalances and stresses, and it all begins with an attitude of gratitude and possibility.

      Dr. Erica

    • Sue,
      I love connecting with women who have defied the odds. You do pretty well yourself as a tech savvy woman. I admire how many tips and tricks your offer to us as you keep expanding your knowledge of this online world.



  5. Hi Erica,

    A fantastic interview which sheds so much light on this topic. I can remember when I was a victim and turned victor. The feeling is the most uplifting ever.


    • Hi Donna,
      I didn’t see your comment here until tonight. Thanks for sharing. I have certainly had that victim attitude over the years and it is so freeing to no longer feel that way.
      Dr. Erica

  6. Hi Erica

    What a great interview . Marilyn is indeed an inspiration and I gained so much insight from the interview. Hope does make much a difference.

    Thank you for sharing. Take Care

    • Ikechi,
      Thanks for stopping by. Yes, Marilyn has lived a life of her own choosing and after severe injury she came back strong. Her story is a true inspiration.
      Dr. Erica

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