Recently I gave a brief workshop for Singles – Loving Your LIfe and Finding Love – at a Singles Lifestyle Expo. At my booth, I had my Love Me, Touch Me, Heal Me books displayed as well as information about my Healing Through Love courses. It was educational and enlightening for me to see the responses of single men and women to what I am offering.
One attractive man stopped to look at my books, asked some questions, and then replied: “I’m not broken yet” – and he walked away smiling. Another man, much older and much less physically appealing stopped by my booth just as the Speed Dating Event was about to start. I asked him: “Are you joining the Speed Dating.” With an air of total confidence and indignation he replied: “I don’t need that. The women are already chasing me.”
The Speed Dating seemed to attract more women than men and I watched with curiosity as they lingered in conversation with their current partners before switching. One of the men, kind of ordinary looking but much younger and more physically appealing than many of the other men, seemed to be totally engaged with his changing partners in the Speed Dating process. Afterwards, when he stopped by my booth, I asked how he had enjoyed that event. With a tone of surprise and delight he shared that he had easily gotten phone numbers from several of the women he had met. I realized that for an average guy, this type of event could help him to stand out and be noticed, especially if he was younger and more physically fit than most of the other men.
In my Loving Your LIfe and Finding Love workshop, I asked the participants to tell us who they are by finishing the statement: “I am.” Then I invited them to describe their ideal romantic partner. Although some chose similar qualities, each one was really unique in what mattered most to them in choosing a partner. And after a brief group discussion, we all agreed that nothing is more important than knowing your own self, loving and accepting and acknowledging your self. Of course, it is also essential to know, love, accept and acknowledge the other person without wanting, needing and expecting him or her to change to meet your needs. And then I added another essential ingredient in the relationship healing formula – understanding how the world works and what creates love over time. We talked and shared and the attendees applauded at the end.
But the most enlightening comment I received was from a man who stopped by my booth, glanced at two of my books – Touch Me… Please and Sexual and Spiritual Reawakening – and blurted out a powerful truth about what men and women really want.. He spoke firmly and with conviction when he said: “Accept me naked!”
We both laughed because being naked conjures up images of naked body parts, youthful, beautiful and sexy as well as overweight, sagging, scarred and aging. But as this insightful man walked away, I realized that “Accept me naked” has much deeper meaning than just wanting my body to be accepted. We, men and women alike, long for others to accept us naked – exposed and revealed in our raw, naked and authentic truth. We want to be loved, acknowledged, accepted and appreciated exactly as we are. We want to be able to share our inner thoughts and emotions without judgement, criticism or reproach. We want to freely express our most natural and comfortable ways of being. And we want others to love us exactly the way we are – no matter what.
How willing are YOU to expose your raw and naked self to the one you love?
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