Healing Through Touch

Healing Through Touch






Recently I have been interviewed on many different events, mostly about relationships and love, and I realized that nobody has been talking about touch. Gentle touch and touch therapy (combined with counseling, body awareness, visualization, meditation, yoga stretches and postural alignment) have been a natural part of my counseling sessions for decades.  In fact, to insure that my intentions are not misunderstood, many years ago I went back to school for a full year to obtain a massage license, a license to touch clients.
Since touch was such an integral part of my work, I tended to talk more about relationships, sexuality, intimacy, love and all the problems that block or interfere with pleasure and the enjoyment of life.  Then I heard a few people excitedly talking about one type of body therapy as if it was the cure-all for everything.  Having studied many, many different types of touch and touch therapies with leading teachers and practitioners, I began to feel the need to share my knowledge and understanding more openly.

So, finally I have started talking about touch, touch therapy, somatic awareness and body oriented psychotherapy – again.


If you have a physical, emotional, mental or even spiritual problem

  • Pay attention to the sensations in your body
  • Instead of suppressing the uncomfortable feelings
  • Stay with the feelings, touch your body gently, say soothing words


  • Receive a body therapy session from a qualified practitioner
  • Choose a somatics practitioner who will help you explore the sensations
  • Find a body oriented psychotherapist, trained in counseling and in touch therapy
On the virtual summit I created in 2016, I interviewed many of my teachers including Ilana Rubenfeld (Rubenfeld Synergy Method), Wataru Ohashi (Shiatsu), John Beaulieu (Polarity), and Roger Tolle (Trager) and the sons of my teachers, Frederic Lowen (Bioenergetic Analysis) and John Matthew Upledger (Craniosacral).  Divided into separate modules, the topics ranged from touch therapy, to somatic awareness, to energetic therapies, to Asian therapies, to body psychotherapy methods and beyond touch therapies into dealing with end of life therapy and possible multi-life therapy.


Touch is the ultimate communication. Your body does not lie.  Your thoughts may confuse you.  Your words may not accurately express your thoughts.  But your body will tell you everything you need to know – if you listen with an open mind, without preconceived ideas, and without judgement.  Your body is your best friend and it is time to treat it that way.





Let me provide some of my background and early training that led me to incorporate the amazing healing potential of touch into my private, couples and group sessions. I was a Professor of Health and Physical Education for 25 years and before that I had taught at the high school level. I taught yoga, stress management, health, tennis gymnastics, slimnastics, human sexuality and even some jazz dance courses and I coached tennis and gymnastic teams..

Having all sorts of aches and pains, I reached out to receive different types of body therapy in New York City in the 1970’s and 1980’s I received massage, Trager, Rolfing, Myofascial Release, Reflexology, Shiatsu, Thai Massage, Acupuncture, 7 Rays, Shamanism, Reiki, Alexander Technique, Feldenkrais, Hypnosis, and others without a definite name.   I took many trainings in Trager, but when I was going on a trip to California and reached out to hopefully get a session with Milton Trager, his phone assistant refused to let me because I was not certified and advanced, I had only completed the intermediate training.  I also took many, many shiatsu courses with Waturu Ohashi, a master teacher from Japan.

I was in a doctoral program in Human Sexuality, Marriage and Family Living at New York University.  When I graduated and started my sex therapy practice which included my touch therapy and body psychotherapy, I went back to school for a year to get a massage license for my own protection, but I never intended to actually do regular massage.

A week before my doctoral dissertation orals, I attended a weekend at the Association for Humanistic Psychology and met my teacher and mentor, Ilana Rubenfeld.  Her beautiful work, (the Rubenfeld Synergy Method, combining Gestalt Therapy, Eriksonian Hypnosis with Alexander Technique and Feldenkrais) put it all together for me – the mind, body, spirit connection.  It was a 3 year training.  During the breaks, I got trained and certified in Polarity Therapy with John Beaulieu.  At some point, I started receiving sessions with Dr. Alexander Lowen, creator of Bioenergetic Analysis, and I attended a few of his workshops as well.  Next I studied Craniosacral Therapy and Somatoemotional Release with Dr. John Upledger.

Then, in 1996, Ilana asked me to represent the Rubenfeld Synergy Method on the Steering Committee for the newly forming U.S. Association for Body Psychotherapy.  I also was on the first few boards and was newsletter editor for awhile. So, as you can see, I have had lots and lots of training in various modalities and lots of exposure to practitioners and teachers of the many different methods and modalities.


Ilana Rubenfeld Speaks About The Rubenfeld Synergy Method
The Foundation For Dr. Erica’s Healing Through Love Mentoring

Dr. Candace Pert’s Documentary About “The Molecules of Emotion
Clearly Explains How Emotions Are Felt Throughout The Body


Love Me, Touch Me, Heal Me Complete Book
Love Me, Touch Me, Heal Me Complete EBook
Touch Me … Please Book
Touch Me … Please EBook
Heal Me … Please Book

Heal Me … Please EBook
Touching Matters
Touching Stories
Healing Happens
Love In The Blizzard Of Life
– A Novel


Rubenfeld Synergy: A Talk with the Founder
The Propelled Heart
You’ve Got Options With Rubenfeld Synergy   

Learn the Healing Synergy of Talk and Touch
A Call to Bring Healing to the World
Touching Light to Heal Your Body


Touch Is Good For Your Health
Let All Your Senses Speak As You Heal
It’s a Sensational World
With My Teacher, Ilana Rubenfeld, in Ashland, Oregon
Cuddling – Is it the Key to Long-Term Happy Relationships?
5 Health Reasons for Touching and Cuddling Your Partner
Your Mind Controls Your Body
My Body Knows Where I’m Going, Does Yours?
Relaxation Techniques – The Rubenfeld Synergy Method of Talk and Touch
Pain Relief – What is the BEST CHOICE for YOU?
Pain Management: A Mind Body Approach

A Call to Bring Healing to the World Through Talk and Touch


Body Psychotherapy to Overcome Sexual, Relationship & Emotional Problems
The Healing Synergy of Talk and Touch
Mind Body Connection – Do You Feel It?
Mind Body Wellness – What Does Spirit Have to do with it?
Mind Body Wellness – Healing From the Inside Out

The Seven Styles Of Body Therapy That Can Heal Whatever Hurts You
Body Psychotherapy – Questions About the Scientific Validity – Part I
Body Psychotherapy — Questions About the Scientific Validity — Part II
A Sampling of Body Psychotherapy Methods to Overcome Relationship Problems


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Dr. Erica Goodstone is a Spiritual Relationship Healing Expert helping men and women heal their bodies and their relationships through love. Having presented her comprehensive relationship healing programs throughout the U.S. and Canada over several decades, she has helped literally 1000's of men and women to heal through learning how to love. Dr. Erica believes "Where There is Love There IS a Way". When you love, accept, listen and pay attention to your body, trust your own sense of what you truly desire, and strive to understand, appreciate and really know the other people in your life, anything and everything is possible.

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