I stayed too long. It was comfortable – one block from the ocean, lots of cool restaurants, easily accessible for clients, sunny and spacious with an open feeling. My focus was online – writing, connecting, studying and learning. My focus was also offline – attending various local networking groups and events. And I continued to build my professional knowledge – taking courses, attending conferences both near and far. Moving was the farthest thing from my mind and seemed to be an enormously difficult task – taking the time to do some research, traveling to look at different places, and then packing up to move.
I chose to stay in my comfort zone.
So, when the huge terrace, part of my apt, was damaged during the hurricanes several years ago, I overlooked the fact that the landlord had never fixed it (even though he had received money from FEMA). And when the dishwasher broke and was not fixed, I didn’t make a fuss because I eat out a lot anyway and it’s no big deal to wash a few dishes. And then there were some worms in the hallway. After a long time, and many requests, the exterminator came. Then, recently, there were huge waterbugs. Again, it took awhile but the exterminator was finally summoned. Becoming increasingly upset, I was finally beginning to gear up to move. I had looked at many different places over the years and none quite met with my expectations – except one huge, wonderful townhouse that I had almost taken a few years ago. Although I pay a pretty high rent where I am, the townhouse was much more expensive and fear had overtaken me. So a few years ago I had decided to stay in my comfort zone.
Finally, the straw that broke the camel’s back, was when I moved the refrigerator so the exterminator could spray behind it and the freezer pipe broke creating a small water leak. When the manager came in, he tried to tighten something under the sink and then there was a mini-flood. Then someone came to fix the problem and did a slip-shod job and I suddenly had low water pressure in my sink. The manager turned on the dishwasher, even though I begged him not to, and then he broke off a piece at the bottom. That did it! Finally, finally, finally I made the decision to leave my comfort zone and go for success!
Decisions have great power in them. The townhouse I had almost taken about 3 years earlier was once again available. This time there was no hesitation despite the large increase in monthly payments I will have to make. When the pain of staying where you are is greater than the pain of stepping forward, the choice is easy. I have had a vision board for a few years and as soon as I leave this current place I am throwing the board away. My vision has been fulfilled. In my new townhouse bedroom, I have a direct view of both the ocean and the intracoastal waterways. For relaxation and meditation, I go downstairs to sit facing the ocean or walk across the street to sit facing the intracoastal. The building is directly on the ocean with a huge pool, secure garage and qualified caretakers.
I can only imagine how different my life would have been these past 3 years if I had taken the leap of faith at that time. The lesson here is that the comfort zone is a trap – it keeps you stuck and gives the illusion of security. Movement has energy. After my current move, my energy is so much freer that I know it will be easier to move again if that is what I need to do.
Are YOU ready and willing to leave YOUR comfort zone to follow your dream and seek success?
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