The first week is ending in this new year. Did you review your past accomplishments and set your intentions for this year? Do you have a big dream and a vision of what you want? And do you feel as if you are off and running toward reaching your dream?
Or — are you like many of us. Maybe you reviewed your past year or maybe you chose to not even think about it because it was not as good as you would have liked. Maybe you haven’ quite decided on what you want to accomplish this year, if anything. And maybe you have set your goals and then got stopped in your tracks, worrying about how you can possibly do this and comparing your progress to what you see others doing.
It’s very easy for us to set a goal for the new year while we are celebrating life during the holidays. It is quite another thing to actually follow through and continue that level of excitement, enthusiasm and commitment as we encounter the inevitable trials, tribulations, roadblocks and difficulties.
Your relationship toward your goals and dreams is just as powerful as your relationship toward anything or anyone else. I have heard it said: “The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.” So if you are a great lover and you find the love of your life. All may be rosy for a few weeks, a few months or even a few years. But sooner or later the illusion ends – the “limerance,” the infatuation, the spurt of adrenalin, the rose colored glasses or the sense that this person or this project will make you happy. Sooner or later you are once again faced with a struggle and the opportunity to make a choice.
You have 2 choices when your enthusiasm wanes, your self-doubt creeps in and when you find yourself comparing unfavorably to those you admire.
First Choice Taken by Many: Give up the project, the goal, the dream or the relationship. Tell yourself it is just too hard and you don’t have what it takes to succeed. Find a way to invalidate the other person or question and undermine the value of your pursuit.
Second Choice Taken by Those Who Succeed: Continue your efforts to do whatever it takes. Be determined to figure out a solution to any problems that you face. Do research, find a teacher, coach, counselor or mentor, or continue to struggle with the problem until it is resolved to your satisfaction. Develop any missing skills or capacities through study, practice and, if needed, hard work.
As yourself now and please share your thoughts in the comments below.
- How confident am I that I will accomplish my intentions and goals for 2014?
- How much do I love, desire, need and appreciate the value of this project, person or dream?
- What skills, strengths, or resources have I been missing and how might I go about developing them?
- How can I keep on loving what I am doing when the goal seems far away and the difficulties appear huge?